“That you need to pee after sex. Every damn time. No sex ed class, TV show, movie or friend had ever mentioned it. Something a lot of us had to learn the hard way.”
“It’s okay to get yourself involved in your own orgasm if he can’t quite get you there, and his hands/tongue are otherwise occupied, even if things are going great. Sometimes a position that you like and feels good for both, isn’t the best one to stimulate any vital parts (clitoris, g-spot, nipples, whatever!) so get your own hand into the mix if needed, it doesn’t mean he’s not doing a great job! Supplement each other and have fun with it!”
“That it’s completely okay, and inspired, to inform your associate what you do and don’t like. You do not must do one thing you do not need to do exactly to make the opposite particular person comfortable.”
“That it’s not simply ‘P in V’ and there’s so many different issues you are able to do to have good intercourse and a satisfying intercourse life with out penetration.”
“That the balls DON’T go in the condom. We were both virgins… no sex ed at our school.”
“Sex is not the same as affection and cannot replace love.”
“That the majority of women can’t orgasm through only penetrative sex. I really used to think that all women could just have an orgasm that way with no problem, and that it was weird if you couldn’t. It was nice to find out that is far from true and there are definitely other ways to achieve that.”
“How unimportant all of it is. I used to really feel so nugatory if somebody wasn’t expressing sexual attraction in direction of me, and it was even worse after I was single and never relationship. Now at 38, I notice that intercourse is one notice in a whole symphony. It simply does not imply a lot in our everyday lives.”
“That you don’t have to have it!! Ever!! If you don’t want to!!”
“More information about different types of contraception with their pros and cons! I had to research and find out for myself but there should be more education. I have friends who have had very bad experiences with the coil and a friend who had the injection for years but wasn’t told about how it could affect her bones, she has cerebral palsy! Also it would have been nice to be warned just how painful sex is the first couple of times!”
“It is not meant to hurt!! Use lube! Communicate! All important to make it feel great!”
“Communicate. Talk about what you want and explore new things. Don’t be afraid to say how you feel. Once you start doing that, you’ll have much better sex and won’t look back!”
“If you begin to really feel uncomfortable, cease. Whether you simply must take a second and breathe or cease solely, do it. Because one thing is off, whether or not you are in ache or overwhelmed or for no matter purpose. You do not must maintain going in case you do not need to, and if anybody you are having intercourse with would not cease, then go away.”
“Ladies, that is necessary: intercourse is not imagined to be garbage for you. I genuinely thought that I did not like intercourse till I met somebody who knew find out how to do it! It was mutually enjoyable and never only a bloke attempting to make himself cum as rapidly as potential. If he isn’t all for satisfying you in addition to him. Sack. Him. Off.”
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